Traveling with family can be enjoyable and stressful, especially when it comes to bringing your girlfriend with you. I went on vacation with my girlfriend’s family a couple of times now, but the first time was the most memorable.
Unlike my parents, Meg’s parents have gone out of their way to make me feel welcome, but during our first vacation together, you could tell they were uncomfortable. Our first vacation with her parents was at Disneyland, one of Megs favorite places to vacation. She likes all of the special effects and how much work goes into the rides and scenery that is seen throughout Disneyland.
Her parents had to adjust to me dating their daughter
Her parents arranged to pay for my flight and hotel which was very kind of them, and I don’t think I would have felt comfortable going on their vacation otherwise. As you can imagine though, dating their daughter was not a reason to like me.
As you can imagine, her parents didn’t approve of me. It wasn’t that I was impolite or arrogant, I have always tried to be a charming sweetheart to Meg. From the first day I met her I have tried to be the best person I can be for her and if I were a Mormon boy, they would love me.
They haven’t always been a fan of me
You can imagine, a vacation that required more than a couple of hours together at a time created a little tension. Everyone including her parents, Meg and I all tried to be polite and civil around each other, but there were moments that made things awkward.
For example, it was a bit awkward when it came to sleeping arrangements. We all slept in one room, her parents, sister, Meg and I, to save on hotel expenses. There were two beds and a couch so her parents slept in one bed, Meg and her sister slept in the other, and I slept on the couch.
Even though Meg and I had been living together for a few months prior to the trip, her mother didn’t feel it was appropriate to share a bed so they made a point that I wasn’t allowed to sleep next to her. It wasn’t that fact her mom felt it was inappropriate, or even that she didn’t trust me sleeping next to her daughter that bothered me, it was the way her mom went about making a point that I wasn’t “allowed” to sleep next to Meg. I felt like someone in a movie about high school students whose parents don’t trust their kids.
I could have made the trip less awkward if I pretended to be “just friends”
Meg’s mom wasn’t the only cause for discomfort on the trip, I may have been guilty myself as well.
One evening Meg and I were watching the fireworks from the hotel window and I was sitting on her lap because there weren’t any other chairs available. I made a point to sit on her lap like a best friend would, but the fact I was dating Meg made Meg’s mom was pretty bothered.
The worst part about that situation was that I knew it would make her mom feel uncomfortable, but I was tired of standing and wanted to make a statement that it should be fine for me to sit on Meg’s lap- she is my girlfriend after all.
Her mom and I started to share stories
Besides the awkward or contentious parts of the trip, it was overall very enjoyable. We were at the happiest place on earth, after all. For example, when Meg was with her dad and it was just her mom and I, we would exchange stories about Meg and it was really fun.
As long as we were at the Disneyland park, we all seemed to get along really well. We took turns sitting by Meg and we all laughed and awed at the attractions. By the end of the trip things were a lot less awkward. Her parents probably still wished that I was a Mormon boy, but I think they learned that I was very good to Meg and I was good for her too.
They still wish I was a Mormon boy, but I think I am starting to grow on them
I became closer to Meg’s parents and we learned a lot about each other. In addition, this trip opened the door to additional trips and vacations with her parents that I wouldn’t have been invited to otherwise.
They probably still wish I was a Mormon boy, but I think I am starting to grow on me. I even text her mom from time to time, which is a big deal because I don’t text or call people very much.
For Meg’s mom
If you are reading this, I want you to know that I may not be who you envisioned your daughter would marry, but I think you can agree that I love her and will always take care of her. I love you too, future mother-in-law and I look forward to a number of vacations together.
I enjoyed our vacation together and I think it was a pretty good start to our long relationship together.
For everyone else
This is the first story of many of vacation experiences I will share on a weekly basis about experiences you may relate to.
Sometimes it is hard when you don’t have support from your parents or family especially when it comes to loving who you want to love. It is especially hard when you want to make great experiences together on vacations, but be sure you are ready before you put yourself in a situation that requires a lot of time with your loved ones’ family.
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