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3 Ways to Meet Other Lesbians on Vacation

If you are looking for tips about finding someone who will keep you warm at night on vacation, try looking somewhere else. Instead, I will focus on finding fellow Lesbians to enjoy their company, share stories and go out for drinks. Wouldn't it be great to make more lesbian friends that you could meet up with for future vacations?

Finding fellow lesbians in locations you are less familiar with, which is common for most vacation spots, is not an easy task, as you may have figured. However, I asked around and researched how other lesbians do it, and I have accumulated what I think will bring you the most success.

 

1. Go to LGBT supporting restaurants and bars

With more and more LGBT people coming "out" and creating communities around the world, it has become more common to find lists of Businesses that support LGBT communities. Often times you can search on your favorite internet browser for LGBT restaurants or LGBT hangout areas in "x" area.

There are tons of websites that have already built a great archive of places and reviews. One place I used to help for an upcoming trip that Meg and I are going on is called GayCities.com

 

2. Go to Local Facebook groups and see if there are any activities or common places to hang out

Social media is a great platform to find local groups and hangouts for lesbians. I have met so many people and gone to so many events that I would have never known about if I didn't take the time to check Facebook. I suggest checking in advance so that you can make any necessary adjustments to your travel plans if needed.

3. Try out Dating Sites - Status: Just looking for friends while I am in town

I was surprised to hear that dating sites and apps such as Tinder are so common for people looking for "just friends" and people in local areas. I have yet to try this, but I am planning on trying it with my Fiance during our next trip in a couple of weeks.

I didn't understand till now, but I finally know why some people are on dating sites when they just want friends, especially if they are from out of town. There is so much exposure and it is super easy to get a locals perspective for the local lesbian scene when you are asking the local lesbians.

 

What about You?

Have you tried using Dating sites? Any luck? What about your tips for finding the Lesbian scene on vacation? Let us know in the comments below

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How I Use Airbnb to Fund your Travels

I recently started hosting on Airbnb and quickly realized that with a few tricks I learned in marketing classes, I can fund my travels pretty easy. You don’t necessarily need the fanciest place to be successful on Airbnb, you just need to provide a clean space that meets guest needs when they need it.

In order to help you get your travels funded by Airbnb, I included a few tips I picked up from marketing classes that may help you get more guest and fund your traveling.

Tip 1: Create a space that fits your target guest.

If you are offering a shack, then don’t try and dress it up as a mansion. This will help guest feel like you are deliveringsurf-shack-airbnb what you said you would, and will
also help potential guest feel at ease that you aren’t over promising.

If you aren’t sure who your target guest is, than try this; analyze yourself. People who will enjoy living in your space are probably similar to you because you already live there, and hopefully you enjoy your living space.

Now that you have identified yourself as a target guest, analyze what you love or hate about your space. Do you have great natural lighting, maybe a great location or a giant bathroom? What ever it is, sell it.  As for what you hate about your space, maybe you need to decorate, or get new pillows. Find solutions that would make you love your space and invest some time and a little money to make it happen.

airbnb-appTip 2: Research your competition – other local Airbnb listings

The fact that you have competition is a good. It means that there is a market in your area for Airbnb, and it also
means you have something to compare yourself to.

There isn’t any point to comparing yourself to a mansion if you live in a shack because they are outside of your target market. Instead, pay attention to the competition that is similar to yours, or slightly “better.”

When you compare your listing to others near you, look at the photos, the descriptions, the ratings and the comments. Find what you like about their listings and see how you can incorporate them into your own space and listing. Also pay attention to who is getting the most bookings and see if there is something you can adjust – maybe your prices or restrictions for applying.

Tip 3: Add “Icing on the cake” with your photosbed

You already know that a picture speaks a thousand words, but more importantly, you have to convince someone to click on your listing within 2 seconds of being seen or your listing will just be scrolled past.

In addition to good lighting and high definition, you also have to look at the composition of your photos. With each of your photos, put “icing on the cake.” Many successful Airbnb gurus suggest that staging a room, for example putting a bottle of wine with a cheese plate on the bed for your picture, will be the icing on the cake that results in more clicks to your listing and in consequence, more visitors booking.

Do you have some tips that you would like to share as well? Please comment below with your suggestions – your tip may be just what someone needs to start paying for their travel and vacation!

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3 Quick Tips To Finding The Best Cruise For You And Your Girlfriends First Cruise

A number of things go into finding the best cruise for you and your girlfriend and your first cruise may be a large influence into trips to come. Try these quick tips to make sure that you choose the best cruise for your first time.

1.      Inside Cabin or Outside Cabin

If you are like me and Meg, then you will be spending most of your time on the deck and only being in the room for sleeping (and maybe other things that require closed doors). With this being the case, there isn’t any reason to pay more money for a balcony or window view.

However, if you feel that you may have claustrophobia issues, then having the window view of all the open space may be necessary. Some cruises offer live stream video that makes it look like you are looking out a window, so make sure you read the fine print and make sure it is a real window.

2.      Consider cost of flights to get to the departing port

Some people get so excited because they found a cheap cruise that seems like a bargain so they buy the tickets before it sells out. However, the flight to the departing port can make the cheap cruise actually more expensive than a cruise that is closer, so it is important to check flight cost before buying the cruise tickets.

3.      Get detailed information about where your cabin is and the best time to schedule your meals before you board

The cruise lines are often well staffed, but the rush of people boarding and trying to find their cabins can make it so that there are lines of people waiting to ask any employee for directions to their cabin. You can usually get information for where a cabin is located and what elevators to take on the ship map that is provided to you before boarding.

Some cruise lines even suggest what time you should make reservations for dinner to help avoid large crowds. If you are unsure how to find this information, ask a travel agent, or whoever you booked the cruise with, they may be able to provide you with the appropriate information.

What experiences have you had with a cruise? Do you have any tips or stories to share with the community? Please comment below with your experiences and questions.

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Don’t Believe Anyone Who Says Vacation Isn’t Stressful

It is true that some people stress and worry about vacations more than others, but there is always some level of stress when it comes to vacations. Stress isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In fact, stress can produce hormones that you need to stay safe or even just give you the energy you need to get back to your hotel after a long day.

However, if you are anything like me, then you understand that vacations are to relax and leave the stress at home.

A thorough plan will help prevent stress

One way to decrease the amount of stress you go through is to plan your trip thoroughly with everyone that is going on the trip in advance. For me, planning the trip is the most stressful part, but it will help prevent stress while you are actually on the trip.

I wish sometimes that I could just pick-up and go on vacation without a moment’s notice, but in reality we have to plan where we are going, when we are going, what we are going to eat, and what we are going to do.

By going through this planning process, you will more likely feel “in control” during the trip and “on the same page” with everyone that is there with you and in turn have less stress.

Plan your vacation with flexibility

As I mentioned above, having a thorough plan will help prevent stress, but you also have to create a plan that allows for flexibility. Weather, car problems, delayed flights, closed restaurants and sickness can create stress, but that level of stress can be greatly decreased if you are flexible with your plans.

Be ok with change

Not everyone is ok with change in plans and it can cause stress. Meg for example hates it when I want to change or add things to our plans. She was expecting the trip to go one way and by me changing it, she has to change her expectations and that is stressful for her.

Honestly, it isn’t as easy as just saying “be ok with change,” but if you plan for changes, then it will be a lot easier to deal with.

On the other hand, be aware of who you are vacationing with and avoid causing changes if the people you are with don’t like change.

What do you do?

Everyone handles stress differently, and I have shown you some ways that I try to prevent stress on vacations, so what do you do?

Please comment below with your experiences and questions.

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The First Time I Went On Vacation with My Girlfriend’s Family

Traveling with family can be enjoyable and stressful, especially when it comes to bringing your girlfriend with you. I went on vacation with my girlfriend’s family a couple of times now, but the first time was the most memorable.

Unlike my parents, Meg’s parents have gone out of their way to make me feel welcome, but during our first vacation together, you could tell they were uncomfortable. Our first vacation with her parents was at Disneyland, one of Megs favorite places to vacation. She likes all of the special effects and how much work goes into the rides and scenery that is seen throughout Disneyland.

Her parents had to adjust to me dating their daughter

Her parents arranged to pay for my flight and hotel which was very kind of them, and I don’t think I would have felt comfortable going on their vacation otherwise. As you can imagine though, dating their daughter was not a reason to like me.

As you can imagine, her parents didn’t approve of me. It wasn’t that I was impolite or arrogant, I have always tried to be a charming sweetheart to Meg. From the first day I met her I have tried to be the best person I can be for her and if I were a Mormon boy, they would love me.

They haven’t always been a fan of me

You can imagine, a vacation that required more than a couple of hours together at a time created a little tension. Everyone including her parents, Meg and I all tried to be polite and civil around each other, but there were moments that made things awkward.

For example, it was a bit awkward when it came to sleeping arrangements. We all slept in one room, her parents, sister, Meg and I, to save on hotel expenses. There were two beds and a couch so her parents slept in one bed, Meg and her sister slept in the other, and I slept on the couch.

Even though Meg and I had been living together for a few months prior to the trip, her mother didn’t feel it was appropriate to share a bed so they made a point that I wasn’t allowed to sleep next to her. It wasn’t that fact her mom felt it was inappropriate, or even that she didn’t trust me sleeping next to her daughter that bothered me, it was the way her mom went about making a point that I wasn’t “allowed” to sleep next to Meg. I felt like someone in a movie about high school students whose parents don’t trust their kids.

I could have made the trip less awkward if I pretended to be “just friends”

Meg’s mom wasn’t the only cause for discomfort on the trip, I may have been guilty myself as well.

One evening Meg and I were watching the fireworks from the hotel window and I was sitting on her lap because there weren’t any other chairs available. I made a point to sit on her lap like a best friend would, but the fact I was dating Meg made Meg’s mom was pretty bothered.

The worst part about that situation was that I knew it would make her mom feel uncomfortable, but I was tired of standing and wanted to make a statement that it should be fine for me to sit on Meg’s lap- she is my girlfriend after all.

Her mom and I started to share stories

Besides the awkward or contentious parts of the trip, it was overall very enjoyable. We were at the happiest place on earth, after all. For example, when Meg was with her dad and it was just her mom and I, we would exchange stories about Meg and it was really fun.

As long as we were at the Disneyland park, we all seemed to get along really well. We took turns sitting by Meg and we all laughed and awed at the attractions. By the end of the trip things were a lot less awkward. Her parents probably still wished that I was a Mormon boy, but I think they learned that I was very good to Meg and I was good for her too.

They still wish I was a Mormon boy, but I think I am starting to grow on them

I became closer to Meg’s parents and we learned a lot about each other. In addition, this trip opened the door to additional trips and vacations with her parents that I wouldn’t have been invited to otherwise.

They probably still wish I was a Mormon boy, but I think I am starting to grow on me. I even text her mom from time to time, which is a big deal because I don’t text or call people very much.

For Meg’s mom

If you are reading this, I want you to know that I may not be who you envisioned your daughter would marry, but I think you can agree that I love her and will always take care of her. I love you too, future mother-in-law and I look forward to a number of vacations together.

I enjoyed our vacation together and I think it was a pretty good start to our long relationship together.

For everyone else

This is the first story of many of vacation experiences I will share on a weekly basis about experiences you may relate to.

Sometimes it is hard when you don’t have support from your parents or family especially when it comes to loving who you want to love. It is especially hard when you want to make great experiences together on vacations, but be sure you are ready before you put yourself in a situation that requires a lot of time with your loved ones’ family.

What is your experience with your girlfriend’s family vacations? Share them with us by commenting on this post.

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3 Steps to Help You Decide Where to Vacation

It isn’t easy to decide whether or not you need a vacation, but it may be difficult to decide where to take your vacation. Meg and I have been trying to figure out where to take our vacation for quite some time.

Originally we were planning a trip to Disneyland, but neither of us have been on a cruise yet so I was thinking that we should do that instead. After looking into what cruise to go on, and when the vacation would be, Disneyland announced they are getting rid of the Tower of Terror in January, so if we don’t go this year, then we won’t be able to go on the Tower of Terror at all.

In addition, we are planning on replacing our old grandma car for a new car that will last us until our financial plan is to the point that we can go travel the world for a couple of years. This creates more complications because now we have to adjust our budget to compensate for the new car and we may have less funds for our upcoming trip.

As you can see, making a decision for where and when a trip will be is no foreign idea. However, we have figured out 3 great ways to making the decision process easier.

Step 1: Identify what makes the decision difficult.

The best way to make your decision easier, is to identify what makes the decision difficult in the first place. For example, the main reason choosing between a cruise and going on Tower of Terror for the last time is so difficult, is because as much as I love the Tower of Terror and Disneyland, I would rather have a new experience such as going on a cruise. If it was just me, I would choose a cruise any day, but Meg is coming too and she loves Disneyland. Most likely she would kick herself for ever (literally, well probably literally the rest of her life).

Step 2: Answer this: When do you have to buy tickets by, and how much can you afford by that time?

Now that you have identified why the decision is difficult, add another factor that should help eliminate options. One way to do that is by looking at your budget and the timing that you need the funds by. For example, to have a vacation in December, we would need to buy tickets, hotel and flight in a maximum of 45 days.

This process automatically eliminated trips that were on my list of places to go but were out of our price range for a trip this soon.

Step 3: Answer this: What trip would give you the most, for the amount of time you are going?

Some places just aren’t as enjoyable when it is only a couple of days, but some vacations allow you to do everything you want to in a short amount of time. We want to spend at least 5 days away from work, but we want to save some of our PTO at work for Christmas Eve and New Years so we don’t want to take more than that.

The best way to get the most out of these three steps, is by going through them with everyone you are going on vacation with. You may find that you have similar perspectives, or completely different ones. Together you can come up with a decision that feels great and you all agree on.

What do you do when deciding on vacation spots? Do you have a process you go through? Please share them with everyone here by commenting below.

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Leave your Camera at Home During Your Next Trip

The human body uses senses as a powerful way to activate memories. A photograph triggers some of your memories in a powerful manor, but it is also preventing you from getting the full benefit of the actual moment.

Pictures have been used to capture and freeze moments in time so that you can revisit them in the future or even share the moment with your friends and loved ones. Pictures do amazing things, there is no denying that, but when it comes to being in the moment and having your senses open to as much as possible, you have to put the camera down.

Photographs Taint Memories

You may not realize this, but everything that you can see right now is being stored as an image in your mind right now. One thing is different: your eyes are capable in taking in more detail, more color, and more depth than any camera.

This means that no photograph can match the memory from all your senses that are stored in your brain.

People argue that memories fade, and that photographs are the only way to remember. This is a great argument but if you depend on the photograph to remember that moment, then your mind will start to recall the photo instead of the actual moment when you think of it in your mind.

The more you use a photograph to recall a memory, the closer the photo will be to the surface of your memory. If you continue to practice using photos instead of actual memories, then your memories will start to get buried by the photos and slowly you will only recall the photograph and maybe the feeling you get every time you look at the photo.

By recalling the photo instead of the moment, you miss the vivid colors, depth, detail and “in-the-moment” emotions that only your eyes could capture. The memory becomes a flattened image stuck in time.

If you don’t understand what I am saying, then try this out:

  1. Look all around you for a moment and notice all of the details.
  2. Take three deep breaths and close your eyes.
  3. While your eyes are closed, try and remember all of the details around you. Now open your eyes.
  4. Now go get your camera and take pictures of details around you and then close your eyes.
  5. While your eyes are closed, try to remember all the details of the photos that you just took.

When you compare the difference between recalling the photographs in comparison to recalling the moment from your 5 senses, you can see that the actual moment is more enjoyable.

Do I Dare Go On Vacation without My Camera?

I have recently been using my own eyes to take in memories and moments instead of hiding behind a camera waiting and looking for the perfect shot and I love it. I have found that I am more in the moment and I notice details that I would have missed behind a camera.

On the other hand, I always try and take at least 1 or 2 photos per day so that I can share the memory with my friends and family. That is the main difference, I take a small amount of photos to share with others, and I use my own senses to gather images in my head for myself.

Have you Tried this?

We want to hear what your experience was like leaving your camera at home! Leave a comment or connect with Meg and I on social media to share thoughts and ideas.

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3 Ways to Enjoy Your Vacation Even When it is Storming

We all know that the weatherman can only predict so far in the future and they are often inaccurate. For example, it is pouring rain and Scout is barking at the clashing thunder right now even though the weatherman predicted it would be clear skies all week.

So what happens if you are on vacation and it starts storming? Chances are, that your plans didn’t include you being cooped up inside all day so how do you stay safe and still have fun?

I remember visiting Texas a couple of years back and I ended up spending one night under a staircase while a tornado tore apart downtown. This obviously changed our plans dramatically. Instead of going out to see some of the cool sites, we played Battleship for hours.

In life threatening storm situations, there isn’t much you can do but hang out at the hotel or wherever you are staying. In fact, if you are in that situation, consider your safety first, then entertainment after. I am sure you will find something to fill the time while being stuck for hours with your Girlfriend.

The idea of this post is for non-life-threatening storms. Storms like rain and thunder that aren’t life threatening are a lot easier to deal with so here are 3 ways to enjoy it.

Use an Umbrella

Many vacation places have plenty of things still open and running even when it is raining. In fact, you may even be able to enjoy it more because less people will be there.

Take Disneyland for example, has tons of rides and attractions still open during stormy weather. All you need is an umbrella to get from one location to the next.

Bring Out the Camera

There are so many amazing shots you can get with your camera when it is raining just make sure the flash is turned down. The cloud coverage makes every shadow softer and every color truer than it would be under bright sunlight.

You may be thinking “but it might get wet…” and it might. However, if you use an umbrella to protect it, you shouldn’t have to worry.

You may also be thinking “but my hair might look wet…” and it might. However, if you use an umbrella, that is less likely.

Are you catching the idea that I am trying to send you?

I’m not an expert at photography but I thought you might appreciate some tips from National Geographic about taking photos in the rain.

Change Your Plans

One thing about traveling is finding the attractions that locals go to. A local show or university play isn’t a common activity to plan in advance but they often don’t require reservations and can be a great experience.

If you aren’t aware of what activities may be available near you, it may be worth finding the city website and look for events that are going on near you.

What do you do to ensure your vacation is great even if the weather isn’t? Comment below and share your thoughts with me and all of the readers.

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Should you Watch TV on Vacation?

Some people spend late nights or early mornings watching TV in their Hotels or on tablets in their tents. Some people believe that Watching TV is the last thing you should be doing on vacation- After all, it is nice to get away from all of that for a little while. So who is right? Should you watch TV on vacation?

I tried very hard to pick a side on this topic because I always write at my best as an advocate of one side, but the truth is I can’t.

I spent hours reviewing what other people have said about the subject on a number of forums and the there is almost an even number of people who say they do watch TV vs. those who say they don’t.

Some people suggested that watching TV while abroad helps you get a special insight into the local perspectives of the world and others suggested that it may help you know which places you should avoid as well.

I feel that you should decide based on your personal feelings and keep in mind that TV doesn’t affect everyone the same way, so recognize] what is true for you.

Does TV help relax you?

Some people have found that TV is a great way to escape from the world and relax. On the other hand, a number of people use TV to get an idea of what is going on around the world, and that may not be the most relaxing thing you can do on vacation.

Do you have time for TV and everything you want to do on vacation?

Growing up, I didn’t watch TV on vacation. We woke up early in the morning and came home late at night so by the time I was ready to rewind from the day, I was already dreaming of what was to come the next day. With that being the case, I didn’t have time to watch TV and it probably would have taken away from the vacation.

On the other hand, Meg’s family always watches TV. I remember the first time I went on a family vacation with them to Disneyland. Each morning we would sleep in late and watch TV while everyone got ready for the day. It gave the vacation a completely different feel. On one hand, we didn’t spend as much time at Disneyland, but on the other hand, I felt much more rested and a lot less exhausted each night and morning.

Does TV take away from together time?

When I am home with Meg, we hardly ever have the TV on, except to watch Big Brother, because we commonly get sucked into the TV and forget the other person is even there. The same is on vacation. Sometimes it is nice to take a break from each other, but vacation is a great time to be together.

TV commonly creates great quantity time, but not quality time and vacation should be more about quality time.

Should you watch TV on vacation?

In addition to the other points I brought up about watching TV analyze how you feel after watching TV. Do you feel rested? Does it take up all your time and make you feel lazy? Should you set boundaries for the amount of time you have the TV on?

If you are on vacation with someone else, make sure that you keep them in mind before turning on/off the TV. If you don’t know how they would feel about watching TV, ask them before you pick up the remote.

Do you watch TV on Vacation? What are your thoughts on the matter? Comment below to share your opinion.

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Three Things I Learned On a Last Minute Vacation

For some reason, most of my travel throughout the last year has been last minute plans. For example, when Meg got back from visiting her parents in California, we decided to go to Idaho together and visit her grandparents.

When you are making a last minute travel plans, it is especially easy to forget to do things. Spend a couple of hours before leaving on your trip to do the following:

Make your travel plans around your work

We had a little over a week to make the arrangements and we made it happen. The trip was very, very short. We drove there after I got off work on Friday, then we dove back early Sunday so Meg could work Sunday night. Even though it was a short trip, there were still a couple of things that we had to do to make sure that it all worked out.

Prepare your mode of transportation

If you can take a flight, then perfect that is probably safer then driving for hours. However, if you are driving make sure your car is ready. It can be easy to overlook your car when you are packing, but being stuck on the side of the freeway for something you could have prevented can ruin your vacation.

This is especially true with short trips, because if you plan for a 2-day vacation and 1 day is stuck on the side of the road, you may not have time to do everything you planned on and it can be more expensive then it is worth.

When we were going to Idaho, the car had a couple of error lights on the dashboard and the transmission had been giving us a little grief so we had the system checked before we got on the road. We ended up needing a new tire and transmission oil so it was good that we got it checked.

I was still a little nervous taking the car (we need a new one) on such a long trip, but the system check made me feel a lot safer.

Make plans that everyone can enjoy

It was great for us to take a vacation from home, but we made a couple of mistakes. You see, Meg’s goal for visiting her grandparents was because it had been a long time since she had seen them last and she had promised to visit them months ago.

She figured that we would go see her aunt and uncle as well, which is fine with me, but I failed to plan something that I wanted to do too. This resulted in me feeling like she just wanted me to come on the trip to keep her company during the long drive.

She wanted to visit her grandparents, so we visited them. She wanted to eat at Tucano’s (one of my least favorite places to eat) so we had dinner with her grandparents there. She wanted to visit her aunt and uncle, so we did. She wanted to watch the Boise vs Washington Football game so we did.

It was a short trip and there wasn’t time for much else, but I wanted to do something just me and her. It almost felt like pulling teeth to get her to leave her grandparent’s side for an hour (literally it was less than an hour). She felt like I should have asked her earlier in the day so we could have planned the day around us spending time together. So we were both a little disappointed.

I suppose everything I just wrote could be summed up in three sentences: (1) Whatever your last minute plans are, make sure that everyone is involved in making plans. (2) Make sure that your mode of transportation is dependable. (3) Make plans around your work schedule and talk to your supervisor if necessary.

What do you do before making last minute travel plans? Do you have any stories about what happened on your trip? Share them with everyone by commenting below.

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